I’m sure we all have people in our lives who exert/have exerted a certain amount of power over our lives. When this happens we feel that we have no power. We are subject to their whims and manipulative tendencies. As children we are unable to fight back, to stand strong, to exert the power which is very much an intrinsic part of our nature. Power does not have to be a nasty word although it can seem this way when we are the victims of another person’s control. Those of us in powerful positions e.g parent and child, should use that power wisely. Do not use that power violently, spitefully, mockingly, cruelly. Take power over the power you have and be kind, thoughtful, compassionate, understanding and above all, realise that taking power and control is everyone’s right.
The Mathematics of Power
Power plus control equals pain
Power minus control equals harmony and strength
Power plus control plus pain equals fear
Power divided by two
Gives me and you
The chance to enhance
A balanced relationship
Control decides who takes the lion’s share
It becomes the snare
In which the other is trapped
I didn’t want that for you and me
But sadly that became my reality
You had the power; I supplied the fear
I held you dear; you did not!
Now we are so much older
I could not do the maths then
Children often struggle
Literally and physically
Now, I have the power
Power minus control
Equals harmony and strength!
Copyright Marie Williams – July 2009