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abuse, bag lady, Bill, fate, homeless person, journey, loss of identity, metaphor, Parliament, pillow, power, shower, tiger, tramp
Cometh the Shower, Cometh the Man – the plight of the homeless
Four walls, three windows, two doorsteps front and back, one roof. Zero! Countdown to loss and a loss so profound it has no bounds. Too difficult to contemplate the rate at which this loss creates the fate of anyone of us. Because we are not immune, to any of the fates that wait unseen ready to pounce without fore-warning. Crouching like a tiger, amongst the foliage of life, breathing soft, aloft the cares, concerns and worries of it’s prey, it leaps and you become the very thing you toiled and sweated to avoid: the homeless person, the bag lady, the tramp.
When you lose your home, to a great extent, you lose yourself. Your identity forged on the furnace of the place from which you come. You lose yourself. You lose your rights. You lose your body, becoming visibly invisible for others see you but choose not to acknowledge you, because you don’t have an address. An address, sought after, a number placed upon a door, a number which identifies you and shouts: this is where you can find me on any given day at any given hour, for this is where I live.
Paula* talking on the radio, loud and clear for all to hear. No longer a statistic but a person with a place to call her own. When she opened her front door, I can’t tell you how her spirit soared. Soared to heights it’s hard to describe. She speaks of stepping in the shower in which she spent over an hour, no water saving there! An hour in the shower, is a luxury for a woman who lost the power to shower for longer than she cares to say. Sleeping on a pillow became the stuff of dreams. She slept for as long as she wanted, her head resting on a pillow. The joy, the pleasure to sleep at leisure when one has slept on a cold pavement with fresh air for a pillow and fresh air for a blanket cannot be denied.
To clear the streets and house the homeless they talked of Bills and Parliament. Talk of cross-party support was vital: to get the Bill through Parliament. This becomes a burning issue. Reasons for homelessness are mooted. Domestic violence cited and indicted. Domestic violence stands accused, for who would choose to lose their home? Who would choose to lose their identity? Who would prefer to walk the streets, alone, afraid, if Domestic violence at first charming, so disarming, becoming outraged, impossible to assuage had not moved in and changed the locks on their front door?
~ MEW
*Dedicated to “Paula” who spoke of her plight of homelessness and the part domestic violence played on BBC Radio 4, in London. Enjoy your shower, Paula!
Wow that was great!
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My goodness Tareau, I’ve barely pushed the publish button! 🙂 Thank you so much. You know your comments are always appreciated.
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Hahaha I’m bored awaiting some good posts here on WordPress.
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Tareau you are both funny and sweet! 🙂
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Thank you Mrs. Williams.
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Charmed, I’m sure, Mr Barron. 🙂
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Eloquent and compassionate, as usual, Marie. ❤ You restore this woman's humanity along w/ her visibility. Homelessness is an issue in the US, as well. In one of the wealthiest nations on earth, there are still people forgotten.
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This is both sad and true. We have a duty to try our best to restore humanity and visibility to those less fortunate than ourselves. Thank you, Anna.
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So true, Anna. Am in Los Angeles, where we have good weather most days of the year, yet living under freeways is still awful. Can’t imagine living on streets in England. Thank you, Marie, for making sure we don’t forget our good fortunes as well as the need for compassion.
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Thank you Daal for your compassionate response which reinforces our need (as fellow human beings) to care for each other and not take our own situation for granted. It is so easy to lose your home through circumstances beyond your control.
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Worse, once one loses their home, its harder to get off the streets.
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Such an eloquent paean to the sanctity and sanctuary of the home. I missed that R4 program, but shall now catch up on it with iPlayer. Many thanks, Marie, and all best wishes – Hariod.
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Thank you so much Hariod. I do appreciate your comments so much, and I hope you get the time to listen to that program. I didn’t think to make a note of the program title in case anyone enquired about it. I think it was on Friday’s Woman’s Hour at 10.00am. Or I might be completely wrong about that and it might have been a separate stand-alone program at around the same time. It was entitled “Homelessness” and I just caught it because I heard a snippet, and was intrigued to hear the rest of it. Paula’s voice jumped out at me and I felt I needed to record it because she spoke so heartbreakingly about what had happened to her and how she felt when she was finally re-housed, the joy of having “a shower which was mine”. it really made me think. All best wishes, Marie 🙂
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Hi Lady Marie!
I really enjoyed reading this piece.
As I have said before, you always address life’s important issues using such beautiful prose- it is your gift 🌷
As I read this I thought about an interview that I saw of a young lady who survived Hurricane Katrina in New Orleans. She said, “I don’t really collect things anymore because I am afraid that they will all blow away.”
What a strong lesson to learn about the transient nature of dolls, toys, clothes and houses-not to mention people. All of which can be ‘taken’ away by the next storm, economic downturn, fist fight, etc.
No one is immune.
Always something thought provoking from Lady Marie 🙂
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Hi your right honourable Lady G! What a delight to be able to welcome you to my humble blog. Please come in, sit down, place your coronet – no I’ll have Jeeves (Tareau in disguise) take it. [ Me ringing my bell]: Jeeves hurry now and take Lady G’s coronet and bring us two cheeseburgers and chocolate milkshake. Thank you, that’ll be all. LOL
Seriously though what an insightful and relevant comment on this. Thank you for sharing that poor young lady’s plight, losing all her precious possessions without any warning. I hope like “Paula” she was able to find a new home that she could call her own.
Thank you for that lovely compliment. I am so nervous about posting and wonder what people will make of my writing, but so far there has been lots of praise which is encouraging for me to write the next one.
Thank you so much for commenting. I know we joke around a LOT. Yaaaaassss! But I know we both share the same concerns for all fellow human beings.
Lady Marie :)xXx
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ROTFLMAO!!!!!!!!!!!
Jeeves= “Tareau in disguise” LOL!!!!
Lady Marie you are hilarious!
BTW, I don’t see why you are nervous about your writings; especially when you have so many admirers of your work.
And yes, even though we do joke, we clearly have the same concerns for our fellow sisters and brothers. It is encouraging that as bloggers we’ve created a community of other like-minded folks.
Have an enchanting day Lady Marie 🙂
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I’m so glad you were tickled pink at the thought of our dear brother Tareau “in disguise” as our butler.
I guess I’m always nervous about posting things because I’m not a very confident person. YES!!! I’m not lying – honestly. I know that’s probably hard to believe. Writing on WordPress gives me a sort of anonymity which I hide behind. But thanks for being so complimentary – you do me good! 🙂
You too have an enchanting day Lady G. 🙂
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All I ask is that you keep posting! Be nervous but push “publish” anyway 🙂
LOL!!!
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I promise to keep posting Lady G. I will “publish or be damned!” as they say. Thanks so much for your support, I really appreciate it and that you have taken the time to encourage me like this. But I’m not taking back what I said about Halloween. Yaaaaaaaaaassssssssss! Or should that be Naaaaaaaaaaaaaa? LOL
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YAAASSSS!
You are so welcome! I really enjoy what you’re doing and I love your style 🙂
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Thank you Lady G. Have an intriguingly enchanting day y’heaar me? :))))
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Aww thanks Lady Marie! You do the same my love 🙂
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Brilliant recall and observation Lady G. I think that is why I’m a minimalist and don’t like to be surrounded by unnecessary ‘things’ also.
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Thank you so much!
As I get older, I find that I am definitely becoming more of a minimalist myself 🙂
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You know sometimes I sit down and wonder at how lucky I am to be able to walk across my room and pull out the crispiest cold water from the mini fridge. Switch on heat or a fan at the touch of a button or sit inside and watch the winter rain falling whilst I’m as dry and cosy as anything.
Don’t know why.
It might be because I have tasted versions of the other side and so I find so much appreciation in little ‘stupid’ things like clean, clear, icy water, a roof over my head and a sense of belonging to SOMEwhere. Particularly in this day of migrant upheaval.
Plus you have reminded me to ‘choon’ into R4. Used to love listening as I pottered online, to the stories, the discussions and listening to The Archers with a superior smirk on my face.
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“…listening to The Archers with a superior smirk on my face” – If we are not already doing so, I advocate that is how we should all listen to this programme. Thanks for the tip!
Oh yes, and all the other stuff – completely agree. I could not have put it better. Thanks for commenting.:)
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I was homeless twice. The folk comprising were about 85 percent coming straight out of prison, they got first dibs on take-ins. This was due to the programs available, part of the connectivity between agencies, reason for their finance. Life blood, subsidy.
Several things I learned, though I will not list them here, this I will say…..
I needed to sever the value of that Identity, the one society and its rituals indoctrinates us with. Yes, true I orchestrated my homelessness. I wanted to learn the truths I have learned today.
Hard truths. And I also got opportunity to empathize.
First hand.
The Soul is a most precious commodity, it employs various avenues to obtain identity with Value. For we know not that true Value is the Life of God.
And yes we find value in those things which get taken away from us, but the height of the Spirit is to come face to face with the essence of Value.
And these things of which so briefly I testify of are the things I learned with the advent of homelessness.
In parting, thanks for such a display of talent, rhyming with such sentences. Talented. Good work and nice blog.
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Thank you so much for sharing so much of your life experiences and the lessons that you have learned. You speak from the heart. It takes strength and wisdom to realise mistakes that you might have made, be humble enough to share them and move forward.
I am truly sorry to hear that you have been homeless twice, I experienced it in my late teens. It wasn’t real homelessness as you describe it – my father threw us all out of the house in a fit of rage: mother, me, and my younger brother. We slept on someone’s couch for a few weeks before returning to our home. We weren’t on the streets, but you can imagine how awful it was even for that brief period. So I sympathise and empathise with you.
Thank you for the lovely compliments – that has made me smile. Take good care of yourself.
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Hi Marie,
Thanks for reminding me how precious our lives are and we have so much from the Lord to share. I pray we have many folks getting their needs met and pray for us who need to give to make that happen.
Thank you,
Gary
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Hi Gary, Thanks for that very insightful comment and for your prayers. Always good to hear from you – thanks so much. Marie
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It is a beautiful thing –what makes the world keep turning– that you feel so much for Paula and we’re kind enough to write this inspired by and dedicated to her. Thank you for sharing.
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You are most welcome. Thank you so much for your kind comments.
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A great story. Well written…
Steve…(Arnie)
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Ahh … Round 2, and Arnie’s (Steve) in the Blue Corner, looks like he’s going to take this round … with a right hook to a great comment, yes and he’s in there .. ah, but his opponent in the Red Corner is stunned by the great comment and she’s holding on to the ropes and the bell’s rung as the referee declares it a draw!! Thank you so much. 🙂
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A great imagination goes to the Red Corner, but the contest still has rounds to go…
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The Blue Corner is disputing the decision and the referee is in the ring. The crowd is going wild: the Blue Corner wont accept it’s a draw, he wants to go another round. The Red Corner’s not about to throw the towel in – because she can’t find it … te he
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That’s because the Blue Corner gave all the towels to the football team on threat of his very life!
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Football fan huh? Or should I say soccer as you are in the States? You are in the States arnie, sorry I mean aren’t you? ha ha
On a more serious note, do you have a testimony that you share on your blog? I would love to hear it if you do.
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Yes, Marie, I live in So. California. However, I love American football, not soccer. My two favorite teams are the Denver Broncos and the Dallas Cowboys.
As for a testimony, it is largely in my account profile, (Gravatar I believe they call it.) I was baptized into Christ at 13. I have had several times when I “fell away” from the Lord, but I am never forsaken by Him. I have come back each time, and now I am back for good!
My Lord has guided me through many things in my life, including keeping me out of the Army, and the death of both my parents, just to name a couple.
I have studied the bible as both a teacher and student for many years and have had countless bible studies. For now, this blog is my ministry unto my God. I try to reach out when and where I can to people and encourage them in Christ…
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Sorry Steve but I don’t really know the finer points between soccer and American football. Now boxing … haha, don’t really know very much about that either. :)) Isn’t it all pretty much about kicking a ball into the goal area and scoring enough goals to win?
Thank you for sharing a little bit about your Christian life. I will make sure to read more of your posts.
Religious Education (R.E.) was one of my favourite subjects at school and I was forced to give it up at GCE ‘A’ level when my father said mockingly “Are you going to become a preacher?” I wish I’d had the strength to ignore him and carry on with it as I’m sure I would’ve passed it. However, I dropped it and did History instead which I hated and failed miserably. I love studying the Bible – it all came so easily to me.
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So sorry you didn’t receive and encouragement from anyone to continue with your bible studies. The word of God is the most important knowledge a person can have. It prepares one for life here and now, as well as, life eternal. I encourage you to pick back up on the study of God’s word. I am happy to help in any way I can…
Steve
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Aww thanks Steve. Wish you’d been around ‘x’ amount years ago with this advice! Still, as you say, it’s never too late. Just think, I might have been a pastor had my father not discouraged me. The Devil must have been rubbing his hands in glee when I gave up R.E. 🙂
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Oh, don’t beat yourself up over it all. Our generation did what our parents insisted we do. You were a younger gal and just obeyed your father’s wishes.
Now, however, you are old enough to follow after whatever you’d like. I suggest a book to people. It’s called “A Muscle and a Shovel” by Michael Shank. It’s an interesting read about false doctrines told by Shank as he began to learn what the bible truly says about the Lord’s church and worship. You can find out more at: “muscleandashovel.com”…
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Thanks Steve. It’s amazing how many people are reaching out to me and offering such welcome assistance. Surely God is not absent in all of this!
I will check it out! Promise!
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May you decide to stay and share your Godly thoughts with us. Yes, there are many who will share an incomplete or untruthful message. This is usually not because they are bad, just confused in the scriptures.
I don’t have all of the answers…but I follow what the scriptures say and nothing more or less. I believe the bible only, for it is God’s holy word. May you check out that site at “muscleandashovel.com” and let me know what you think…
Steve
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Isnt it strange how sometimes the most basic and simplest of needs ( and rights) become the most powerful and rewarding. We take showering for granted but when we lose it, how we savour having the right returned. A very powerful piece. And just about right at this time of year.
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Thank you so much Jackie for your thoughtful comment. Yes, I too had not even thought too deeply about the absence of a shower when one is homeless. I suppose I thought it more important to have a roof over your head, and so my empathy would be in that direction rather than the shower aspect. Hearing Paula first-hand, so to speak, relishing her shower and how much it impacted her after being without one for such a long time, made me aware of another aspect of homelessness and made me thankful that I am blessed to have not experienced that.
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