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Lately I find I having been giving a lot. I don’t know whether I am especially aware of this because it is the season for giving, or if something has triggered something deeper within me. But I think the act of giving, whether it is in recognition of a celebration, ie a birthday, charity, a good cause, Christmas or something like that is actually beneficial to the soul. I personally feel such joy and contentment when giving or sharing that I’m sure that internally, physically there is a way the body responds by removing toxins and releases feel good chemicals which flood the body and in turn makes you feel much healthier. You can probably tell that this is my own clumsily conveyed take on what giving means for me. I don’t make any claims to expert scientific knowledge.
Earlier this year, someone approached me telling me that he had to get to work and he had no money for his fare to get there. He said he had seen me, and that he had thought about it a long time, and he knew that I looked like a ‘kind lady’ and that I would help him. After much questioning, I gave him some money to get to work for the whole week. He thanked me profusely and bestowed many blessings upon me. I did wonder if he was genuine, but I thought if he is trying to con money out of me, then that is his problem and not mine. I felt better for giving and helping someone who I believed needed help. I like to think that if I had been in the same position, help would be forthcoming.
Two days ago at the train station, a beggar approached me, dirty, dirty clothing, in need of care and attention and I gave him some money. He had run up to me hand outstretched as I stood in the queue at a cake shop. I had a few bags and had to shift them around to get into my handbag to find my purse. He stood waiting patiently, hand still outstretched while I tried to get my money out. He had no idea if I was going to give him any money at all because I did not say anything, just rustled around with my bags. I eventually found my purse which had some change (lots of pennies) and one shiny £2 coin which I had been saving and did not want to spend because it was so shiny. Call it one of my foibles! I had no other change (apart from some notes), so I gave him my shiny coin which had been in my purse for months, while I broke into pound notes in order not to spend it. So you can see how much it meant to me. I gave the beggar/homeless person the coin which he eagerly took, blessed me considerably and ran off into the crowd. I felt good. I didn’t even mind about giving him that particular coin.
I discovered this story around Easter time, this year. I was actually looking for something else on the Internet, but came across this and it resonated with me. I hope it does the same for you.
The Wise Woman’s Stone
A wise woman who was traveling in the mountains found a precious stone in a stream. The next day she met another traveler who was hungry, and the wise woman opened her bag to share her food. The hungry traveler saw the precious stone and asked the woman to give it to him. She did so without hesitation. The traveler left, rejoicing in his good fortune. He knew the stone was worth enough to give him security for a lifetime. But a few days later he came back to return the stone to the wise woman.
“I’ve been thinking,” he said, “I know how valuable the stone is, but I give it back in the hope that you can give me something even more precious. Give me what you have within you that enabled you to give me the stone.
~”The Wise Woman’s Stone” ♥
Author Unknown
So what kind of cake were you getting at the cake shop?? That’s the most important question. Lmao my greedy ass always asking about food. As you know this time of year can bring out a lot of superficial and non beneficial truths in the human soul. Human decency goes up this time of the year because most are trained to believe that karma will reward them with gifts. Shouldn’t you always be nice and expect nothing in return? Hmmmmm . Here in San Francisco we have about 20,000 homeless people living on the streets and most of our homeless are not native. I’ve worked in homeless prevention for 8 months when I was younger and I learned alot of valuable things. So if you’re ever here never give money, EVER. Give food or water.
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I decided not to get a cake after all, Tareau. I couldn’t make my mind up which one to get. lol
I didn’t give thinking that I would be rewarded later on. I gave because my heart went out to this poor person who might not have eaten for days. I had no thought that I was doing good. I only thought that if I were ever in that position, and I asked someone for money/help/assistance, whatever, someone would look beyond my appearance and see me as another human being/soul needing care and comfort in however small measure.
On the two or three occasions that people have come up to me in the street this year and shown me their vulnerability, I have shown that I have a compassionate nature and that I do care.
It’s interesting your take on this, that people are trained to believe that in doing something good they in turn should be rewarded. I hope I have shown that I do not fit that picture.
I understand what you are saying about giving food and water instead of money, but sometimes it is not possible to do that. Thanks for sharing your views.
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Lmao whattttt. In no way was I referring to you Mrs. Williams. You don’t fit that description so don’t worry. We know you’re really compassionate.
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It’s ok Tareau. Don’t worry! I know you didn’t mean me and that your were speaking in general terms.
What would be really interesting for me and other readers is to hear what valuable insights you were given when you worked in homeless prevention. Perhaps you could write a post on it sharing your knowledge.
We all know that the advice given to ‘givers’ is to give food and water and not money because it is often not spent on what the money is given for.
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Well to shortened it m, here in San Francisco, homelessness has been here since WW2. During war time in our country, you are stationed at a base. Once you get discharged, you go back to the city where you were stationed at. During the Korean and Vietnam wars, most of the people opposed the war and they took it out on the veterans who were drafted. So they did not hire vets and most of the vets became homeless and couldn’t go to the VA. So communities were established and word got out that San Francisco was a sanctuary city for not only vets but homeless in general. So cities like Chicago, new York, Detroit started sending their homeless to us via greyhound using one way bus tickets. In San Francisco the city would give every homeless person $250 a month in cash and food stamps but they had to follow strict rules. People didn’t want to listen to those rules so they would just sign up for a few months and then go live on the streets. Also the weather factor. It doesn’t snow here. Now I say never to give out money because I know from experience from being homeless to working with the homeless that there are so many ways to get help and aid. Most of the homeless here wants pity instead of help or tough love. There is excellent food banks and soup kitchens which serve great food. I’m talking about meatloaf, gluten free brownies, lentils, fried chicken, lasagna, etc. I would know, I delivered the food. Lmao. Of course it’s case by case but I’m just generally speaking.
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Thanks Tareau. As someone living in the UK, I was not aware of these historical facts.
I know you say that there are many ways in which the homeless can be helped. But looking at it from a wider point of view, although it is good to know that help is available, I think that once you have reached that stage it can be so hard to get back to where you were before being homeless. It is one thing to have practical help, it is quite another thing to be able to avail yourself of all the other needs such as emotional and mental health support. I am sure when you are homeless it can most of the time seem very difficult to haul yourself back into a place of normality. I don’t think it is simply a question of having a bowl of soup or a meal and some shelter. The longer term needs are still factors which need to be addressed. Wouldn’t you agree?
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Well it depends on what city you live in and where you are from. The lack of programs for mental health is a big reason why we have a portion of homeless but also just here it’s about drugs. And most of the homeless people here are in their early 20s and they come for the drug culture. Their are counterculture within homelessness here which includes LBGT, Black, women, and disabled. I’ve seen some people homeless since I was a kid just because they wanted to be homeless because they know society will take care of them. Part of the counterculture I speak of is laziness. Ask any social worker here or homeless prevention counselor (like I was). But here is different from other places, and that’s why I mentioned it’s case by case. There’s also schemes where a bully will intimidate weaker homeless and charge them $10 a day per person to panhandle on certain intersections and freeway off ramps.
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Thanks Tareau. This is certainly an education for me. It seems there is much more to homelessness than I at first thought. Why anyone would want to make themselves homeless is beyond me really.
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Did you catch this radio program, Marie? http://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/b082hg9s
I found myself welling-up on a few occasions. The homelessness situation in this country, and the abject levels of support offered to the homeless by the state, are a cause for national disgrace, in my opinion. And yet time and again we vote in governments who pander to property owners, the financiers and vested interests who created and sustain our ludicrous, economically non-productive housing market.
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Hariod, unfortunately I did not as it is something that I would have found very interesting. However, as you have klndly sent me a link, I will catch up with it soon. Thank you so much.
I feel as you do about the homelessness situation in this country and I am affected greatly by the ever growing population of homeless people. I wish I could do so much more than blog about it. The little I do in helping those who beg me for money is nothing really, but I know it means a lot to them, judging by their response.
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This is a wonderful and inspiring story Marie. I’ve tried to convey one of the messages, “that’s his problem” with others, but I haven’t been quite successful. It matters not if the person really needs it according to how we measure need; either give, or don’t. That’s our task.
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Kathy, this did not appear in my notifications, so I almost missed your inspiring comment. Thank you so much! And of course, you give because you feel the need to meet another’s needs. That’s all! That is the philosophy of giving – it’s not as complicated as some would make it.
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I absolutely love this post on so many levels….thanks for sharing 🙂
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Thank you so much for your kind comment. It has been a real pleasure sharing and I am so happy that it resonated with you.
Wishing you Season’s Greetings, Marie
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You’re welcome….and Happy Holidays to you as well 🙂
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🙂 🙂
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Such a blessing of a story!
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Thank you so much! I certainly felt blessed reading it. I am happy that it had the same effect on you. Your comment is much appreciated.
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Oh that is a beautiful story Lady M. I love that one! Thank you for sharing it!
Hope you had a smashing Christmas 🙂
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Thank you Lady G. So happy you loved it and it was my pleasure to share it. Do you know, I had the BEST Christmas ever! Thank you for passing on the ‘bug’ to me! How was yours? I would love to have been a guest in your house on Christmas day – I bet it was, wait for it …..YYYYYYAAAAAASSSSSSSSSSSSSS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :)))
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LOL!! Very glad to hear that. Happy I could be of service love!
Check my most recent post for all the details on how I spent Christmas! YAAASSSS!
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That’s exactly what I was going to do next, Lady G. On second thoughts (lol), am I READY for such details???!!! hahahahaa
Ok, fortune favours the brave ….
I’m not saying your post is likely to be wild or anything ….haahhaaaha
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ROTFLMAO!!!
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What a beautiful post! It seems to me the two halves complement each other perfectly. You gave from your heart the very gift the wise woman gave. ❤
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Thank you Anna. Do you know, after I had written this, I began to reflect on it, and the thought occurred to me that giving that poor hungry person my shiny coin, was so similar to the Wise Woman’s Stone story. In my humility (and you would know all about that :)), I thought it would be stretching my credibility a little too much by pointing it out to readers.:))))
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Love that parable ( the easter stone one) Very true….
Sometimes you want to give ( and do ) but need reward or recognition.
true Givers never do, I guess….
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Of course when I say ” you” I MEAN ” one” – I was speaking generally
PS – Not received your cv yet! 🙂
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Thanks Jackie. One has not sent you one’s cv yet, because one is not absolutely sure that one can commit to the job at this time. May One consider it at leisure…? 🙂
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haha that made me smile…
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Yes it is a lovely parable, Jackie. I think true givers will always receive recognition. It may not always be apparent, but I’m pretty sure it doesn’t go unnoticed… karma and all that!
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Yes – true givers. therein lies the rub, eh? Karma for true givers and it doesn’t go unnoticed ” up above” so to speak. I wonder if people who go to church all year are hacked off by the people who only go at Christmas and take their seats?
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That is a very good question Jackie. I guess the answer to that might be, that we should not judge others. It’s a bit like the story of the ‘Prodigal Son’ isn’t it? One son stays at home and does what he hopes is seen as good, while the other son goes off and squanders a load of money and when he returns, his father accepts him back with open arms and the son who was good all the time is hacked off because he doesn’t think the younger son deserves any sort of recognition because of his behaviour.
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I love this. And how kind you were, especially giving away your special coin. It is inspiring!
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Thank you Ann. I’m sure you would have done the same thing too, and your kind comment is much appreciated.
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“Give me what you have within you that enabled you to give me the stone.” WOW! Thank you for sharing this great tale – I’ve never heard it, before.
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Leslie, I’m going to make like a parrot or an echo: WOW! It was a pleasure sharing that tale, and I am pleased that you were able to take something valuable from it. It’s good to see you here, Leslie.
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Bonjour ou Bonsoir ★* *★ MARIE
Ce jour
J’écoute Le Vent
Me souffler des mots puissants et attachants
A mon oreille il est venu me murmurer
Des élans d’amitié avec des envies de liberté
Me dire combien notre amitié compte entre toi et moi
Une Amitié avec un grand A
je te souhaite une excellente journée ou soirée’
Une douce belle journée si je suis de journée
Ou une tendre nuit si mon passage est du soir
Gros bisous
Bernard
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Thank you for this lovely comment Bernard, which I got someone to translate for me (Google actually!) because I have forgotten all the French I learned at school. Well I didn’t know a lovely person was going to send me such a kind message, or else I would’ve made more of an effort! LOL
Merci,
Marie
Hello or Good evening ★ * * ★ MARIE
This day
I Love The Wind
Me blowing powerful words and endearing
In my ear he came to murmur me
Enthusiasm of friendship with desires for freedom
Tell me how much our friendship counts between you and me
A Friendship with a Big A
I wish you a great day or evening ‘
A sweet day if I am day
Or a tender night if my passage is in the evening
lots of love
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Such a beautiful and touching story Marie. The world needs more of this. I’m filing this story for future reference.
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Dear Ron, thank you so much for commenting. The world is crying out for more of this – you are so right! I hope you don’t file it at the bottom of your filing tray! 🙂 Only kidding!! LOL
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Not a chance, it goes near the top!
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Good! 🙂 Make sure it is given top priority! Take care, Ron.:)
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Okay
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Reblogged this on Let me give YOU the Moe-down and commented:
What do you have within?
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First of all it’s lovely to meet you Daria Kill. And I’m so honoured that my post has resonated with you so much that you have re-blogged it! Thank you so much!! 🙂
I also love the question you ask: ‘What do you have within?’
Thanks for the connection and I look forward to reading more of your blog. 🙂
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That’s ok Marie. I also do handouts to street people, so few others do; & I’d not heard that fable before.
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Keep up the good work Daria Kill! The world needs ‘Moe’ beautiful souls like you.
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Why thank you!
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You are welcome! 🙂
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